Should I Prove Them Wrong? Or Be Happy?
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QUESTION:
My family expects very little from me. They don’t think I’m the smartest person around. A while back I decided that I wanted to be a veterinarian. I figured I love animals, PLUS it would be a great way to prove to them that I am more intelligent than they think. I told them plan of becoming a vet and they laughed it off like I was joking. They’re constantly trying to change my major for me. “Hey maybe you should do interior design!” even though they know I don’t want that. I’ve done a lot of thinking lately and I think that I would be just as happy being a house wife and a vet tech. The only thing stopping me is that I don’t want them to think I chose that because I couldn’t do veterinary. I’m just not able to do 8 years of school with the things that I want out of life. I want to get married and have a family and I don’t want to wait 10 years for that. (i’m 20.) I just need advice. Should I give up what I truly want out of life (a family, and a husband) to goto school to prove my parents wrong? HELP! 
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Life your life for you, not for your parents.
I, too, have high ambitions, but, at the same time, I want to be a wife, a mother, a domestic goddess (haha). I originally enrolled in college as an psychology and pre medicine major. I really wanted (and still want, someday) to be a doctor. But, when I met and married my husband, the thought of starting 8 years of school in a row really felt stifling to me. I wanted a home life too, and I didn’t want to put that on hold for school. I ended up majoring in English, psychology, and nursing. I also worked as a nursing assistant through college. Now I’m a nursing staff manager and I love it. I also love that in the future I have the option to go back for more schooling if I want. Right now, my focus is my family, but in the future if that changes or if I feel unsettled with being a nurse I know that I can always go back. My family hasn’t been supportive of this. Mainly, because my sister is a nurse, and they felt I wanted to be a doctor just to “out do” her. But that isn’t why at all. I want to be a doctor to be able to go into psychiatry. In the end, I had to live my life for me. I got a lot of flack for it, but, you know what, it doesn’t matter to me. My husband, my home life, is more important to me than that. Sometimes you gotta let go and grow up and do what YOU want, regardless of what people think. I hope that helps.
you can go to school and have a family.
my mom is going to school and she is still married to my dad and there is about 6 of us..
yea i kow its alot but she is my step mom
she had 2 kids and my dad has 3 then they had one together!
so u can do wht u love and still have family
and dont ever let someone tell u ur not smart or ur not gonna do anything bc u can do anything u want!!!
DONT DO WHAT MAKE YOUR PARENTS HAPPY.. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!! AS LONG AS YOUR HAPPY I WOULDNT WORRY ABOUT IT.. WHEN THEY SEE HOW HAPPY YOU ARE FROM WHAT YOU CHOSE TO DO .. YOU WILL BE THE LAST ONE LAUGHING ABOUT IT.. I WOULDNT WORRY ABOUT THEM.. DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO MAKE URSELF HAPPY. GOOD LUCK!
you should do what is best for you nobody can live your life and don’t let nobody tell you different.
you cant let your family control you…its your ****** life…the only person you have to please is yourself….if your happy with yourself who gives a **** what other people think…
What do you have to PROVE?
I don’t have to prove anything to anyone.
You should live your life the way you want to. If you don’t want to go to school for 8 years, then by all means, don’t. You won’t get anything out of it anyway if you do. I would suggest that you prepare for life independently, don’t plan your life around having a husband and family. That’s great if it works out that way, but I have more friends that it didn’t. Either they never found a husband, or they found one, and then got divorced. Or, I have friends who get married, but have to help support the family and can’t be a full time stay at home mom, it’s actually the lucky few who can do that anymore. Women today need to plan on supporting themselves independently more than ever. How you do that is completely and totally up to you. You shouldn’t make decisions on how to support yourself based on spite, and that’s what trying to prove your parents wrong is.
My father told me once that the way to be happy in life is to find what you really love to do, then find a way you can support yourself doing it. He’s right. If you’re not involved in something you feel passionate about, it doesn’t matter if you’re a vet, a stay at home mom, or a multi million dollar lawyer, you’ll be miserable.
Good luck!
I’m sorry that your family is so unsupportive.
http://www.bls.gov/oco/ocos183.htmhttp://www.avma.org/education/cvea/vette…
You need to take a step back and figure out what YOU want to do. Chances are with the way your family sounds, even if you do become a vet they’ll still give you a hard time. But really now, to become a vet it takes mass amounts of hard work, dedication, and motivation… are you really going to have all of that if your only reasoning to become a vet is to impress your family? And then if you get into the school and realize that it was a silly reason, you definitely wouldn’t want to quit and have your family say ‘we told you so’.
Life is sooooo very short. You need to do what is best for you and make the most of your time here. I can tell you from experience that being a vet tech is an amazing and rewarding career, plus, only 2 years of school and MUCH less debt!
Here’s some links with vet tech info
If you don’t want to be a vet, don’t become a vet.
You should be whatever you want to be, but remember that being a wife does not necessarily mean giving up a career. you can have BOTH. There are also other animal related professions that are not being a vet. Or, if you don’t feel like you want to have a career as well as a family, you could always volunteer at an animal shelter, or work with programs to find ways to stop animal abuse.
As far as your parents go, i still don’t think you should do things you don’t want to do just to prove them wrong, but have you tried talking to them? You might want to let them know how much it hurts you that they act as if they have no faith in you.